“A house divided against itself cannot stand.”
Recently I have been posting these blog posts as a way to
sort out my thoughts, and although I cannot share them because I’m the social
media coordinator, and it might shed a bad light on the team, and my team will
probably never read them, I feel I have to continue to do this.
Recently I made a post going back and forth about whether we
cared too much about ourselves, or each other, or the good of the club, and
that’s why we were arguing.
But in the past couple of weeks, I’ve noticed that I have
proven myself wrong about it all.
Maybe the special Nationals juice wore off right after Mock
Awards last year, when we realized we wouldn’t get the gym for the summer. Or
maybe it was the aftermath of Nationals and the season that left our team to
slowly break away from each other and divide.
Don’t know what I’m talking about?
It used to not matter who you were friends with, what
sorority you were in or who you were dating. We were all friends, and when one
friend failed and let us down, sure we would vent, but we would sort it out. By
Nationals… Everything was fine. Like it always is.
So what happened?
Because we have people getting left out of group chats, and
it’s not because we are throwing them surprise party. Some people are being
asked to pick up certain party favors, but not being invited to the party. The
one that threw me was when someone told me, “oh, I don’t like anyone in that
friend group.” Excuse me… you talked one of those people through a break up
last year, you dated one of them, and I was pretty sure you were good friends
with my boyfriend. Then the one I’ve heard multiple times is, that some people
are saying, “well this is just a club house event, so that’s why I didn’t
invite the freshman…”
ARE YOU SERIOUS!?
Come on guys.
It’s one thing to have a small gathering of the people
you’re closest to. Or a Necto night with your roommates, or a dinner date with
your roommates and extended roommates, or even a birthday dinner with only
people you want there, but actively leaving people out of activities with a
large group of the club? Really?
We have friends upset that they aren’t getting invited to
parties, I was upset when I realized I was asked to buy party favors, to a
party that my friends and future roommates were invited to, but I wasn’t, and
it is getting EXTREMELY annoying that whenever I bring up Nationals there are
certain members of the club that are saying, “well I’m only going to walk
around with you six. I don’t want to hang out with the rest of the team.”
Come on now. IT’S FREAKING NATIONALS! IT’S A TEAM EVENT.
We go as a team, we compete as a team, we have at least ONE
team dinner… Sure we don’t have to be together the whole time, but seriously.
If you oppose team events that much, then don’t go.
I’ve been trying to warn Evan of this thing that is going
on, and its consequences. That if I start hanging out with “my group” of friends
that I’m never going to be hanging out with him at meets. I’ve been trying to
warn Evan that I’m getting annoyed with this whole “house divided” attitude.
That I’m getting sick of the cliques, that if I make the friends he wants me to
make, then I’m breaking into both groups, and with one group actively saying,
“I don’t want to hang out with other members of the club…” It puts me in an
awkward situation where I don’t want to hang out with them because they have
that attitude, but I want to hang out with Evan because he’s my boyfriend, and
I also don’t want to hang out at my house because nobody is ever there…
So where are we supposed to go. What are we supposed to do
when everyone is dividing against us?
We break. That’s what we do.
Friendships are cracking, peoples stubbornness is cracking,
there are going to be people who put their foot down. There are going to be friendships
ruined because of the amount of rudeness and stubbornness coming out of these
people.
Quite frankly this “house divided” mindset is annoying.
And I don’t want to be a part of it.
I’m sorry.
But a house divided against itself cannot stand, and I’m not
going to sit here and let certain people just tear it to the ground. If you
want to rip apart friendships, go for it, but I will not be a part of it.
